The "jerk magnet" hypothesis has concerned all of us, whether men or women, more than once in our lives and is a topic of discussion in almost every group of singles.     Each of us aptly wonders: "I can't be THAT wrong in my choices." We are logical people (so we say), educated, we read books (proof that you are holding this book in your hands), we do a serious job, we have relatively good behavior, ...what the hell? Why can't we find a normal person?     The very witty Harry Klynn said about 50 years ago: "In Greece, if you throw a stone, you'll hit either a dog or a president." Today I have the feeling that if you throw a stone, you'll hit either a jerk or a jerk. Enough already! How far will this situation go?     Most of us feel like we're swimming in a sea full of jerks, so it's more than natural that wherever we reach out, we catch a jerk! We need to get this well into our heads because if we don't accept that this is the reality, then the problem is with us.     On the other hand, we look around and see couples. It can't be that so many people in our close environment not only find partners but also get well married, and we keep ending up with the rubbish! And we're talking about people who are less of a catch than we are or at least than we think we are. It can't be, we definitely have the "jerk magnet." Or maybe not?     In the pages that follow, you will discover that the truth is different from what the average person thinks and that there is a level of thinking that helps us overcome the obstacle of the jerk magnet and finally find the right people both for relationships and for friendship.